A friend can be simply defined as an acquaintance or someone whom we feel a certain connection in terms of our interests and someone who shares either distinct or common characteristic such as ours. An individual who supports, accommodates and helps another creates a relationship termed as friendship. It is a relationship that can last a lifetime if appropriately cherished and managed. Anyone can actually be our friend; our classmate, colleagues, roommates and strangers as long as we find a certain connection, we can develop special ties that can be beneficial to them and ourselves. There are different kinds of friends out there but the most common to all is a best friend. This person is someone whom we fully trust and who stands out among any other friends we have. The tie created with this person is extremely deep that both individuals are already acquainted about each other and this is the first person we approach before any other friends.

We usually seek the company of another person wherever places we may be because we want to feel a sense of belongingness and affection. We want to establish bonds in order for us to have feelings of security and connectedness. We usually want to have someone to talk to and hang out with during breaks, and we can’t deny the fact that we are greatly influenced by our friends. There are even times wherein we engage in activities that are not common to us because we want to be part of the group and avoid creating walls to the friendship. This is true but this is not common to all. It usually depends on the persons’ own discretion. These activities can either be positive or negative depending on the type of friends you hang out with. Others also want to be just like their friends and buy, use and wear things that are similar that would signify their friendship. Most of the time, we engage in mutually uplifting actions like sharing of advices depending on our own point of view regarding a situation. In this case, we can look onto things in a different perspective, and it can help us search for ideas to make our problems easier to solve. There are usually many situations wherein we cannot directly approach our parents because of fear and the only person we can talk to, is our friends. We approach our friends for help regarding our love life and family, and they can share theirs as well. It is ideal that our parents should be the first to know us better but for others, their friends usually know them best. Oftentimes, we spend most of our time hanging out with our friends playing games, watching movies, joining parties and roaming around places. In times of sadness and devastation, our friends are always on the rescue to make us smile. In times of happiness and victory, they are there to celebrate with us.

Our friends really play an important role in our lives and without them; life would never be much enjoyable and worthwhile. They add color to our lives, and they usually inspire us to continue living life to the fullest and provide us a sense of acceptance of what we really are and support us all the way without asking anything in return but to value the friendship. Love your friends and they will love you back.

Because of this, there are moments that we caught off guard, only to realize that we have fallen in love with our guy best friend.  Although this might sound like cliché as we have seen such a situation in movies and read such a thing in books/novels, still it can be a pain in the heart if you are at the fork of this situation – so much more if the guy is clueless of what you truly feel.

So, what prevents women in telling their guy best friend that they actually are in love with him?

For one, some women think that it is unlikely to a woman to do the first confession of her feelings to a guy. Although we are already in the dot.com age and, that, a lot of women are already surfing up in the corporate ladder, there are still some who believe that men should do the first chase, and not women.

Another reason can be is that women settle to choose the friendship than the risk of losing it if she will confess her feelings to the guy. We have seen many times in movies how women brushed off the opportunity to say their true feelings to their guy best friend because they are afraid that if they will confess their feelings, the guy will already avoid them, ruining the friendship in the long run.

The guy is committed with someone else. Take, for example, the movie My Best friend’s friend’s Wedding wherein the character of Julia Roberts hesitated at first to say her feeling to her best friend because the latter was bound for marriage. This discourages some women to be honest on their true feelings to their best friend because on the idea that she might wreck a good relationship and hurting her best friend on the break-up.

Rejection. What if he will reject me? What if he will feel betrayed? What if he will suddenly get awkward when around with me? These are some questions and what-ifs that plague the minds of women when it comes to the plan of saying their true feelings.  There are women who cannot bear the idea of rejection, so much more if the one rejecting her is her best friend. This will hurt the ego as well as spark insecurities among women – Why did he reject me? I thought he feels the same way; What’s wrong with me? I’m his best friend; it won’t be that difficult if he will treat me more than that.

As a whole, there is nothing wrong actually in confessing one’s true feelings to a person. There are emotions better off said than hidden. Being true to one’s self is liberating although, at times, there is no assurance that a happy ending is waiting at the end of the road. What is important here is that women should not lose their substance and worth whether the feeling of romantic love (and not just plain friendship) is reciprocated or not.